Call it inspiration, call it madness or don’t call it anything. But, is it possible that we’ve been giving ourselves a hard time (for years) over something that isn’t our issue after all? Hear me out. What if it really is okay to be unapologetically you. The ‘you' who makes mistakes, says the wrong thing and at the heart of it all isn’t very cool. What if the problem isn’t that you’re a little freaky, it’s that the rest of the world isn’t. Truth is, if someone doesn’t like you for ‘you’, maybe that’s not your problem.
This isn’t some sort of get out jail free card that excuses all your bad mistakes and lapses in judgement (unfortunately). This is, instead, a little reminder that if, for whatever reason, someone has an issue with you doing ‘you’, letting your freak flag fly (and all that goes with it) then maybe they’re the ones with the problem… Call it a nudge… Some advice that should help you see the good in those ‘oh so awkward’ blooper moments you’ve tried to forget, and why they could be the best examples of you.
“That’s really embarrassing Katy, I mean… Why would you say that?”
“Oh, sorry. You’re so right. I really should stop being myself, become a #basicbitch and stop doing all the things that make me different”
The perfect example of something that isn’t your problem is when you’re made to feel awkward for being who you are.
When someone calls you out for being ‘embarrassing' what are they REALLY saying? I guess the jist of it is that someone somewhere has decided something about you is a little out of the ordinary and that makes them uncomfortable. Whilst I hate the idea of anyone feeling uneasy in my company or whatever there are some things noone should have to apologise for. Being yourself is definitely one of them.
I normally get that i’m a little too OTT, too into the 70’s, a little too much myself on social media and a little too clued up on Arrested Development references. Whilst I agree with all these statements, what’s the issue? I’m sure people have a lot worse qualities, I know I do. Really ladies, since when has one girls enthusiasm for decent music and Jason Bateman ever hurt anybody? I’m first to put my hands up when i’ve said something out of turn or done something i’m not proud of, but i’m not sorry for being embarrassing. Not even a little bit.
The thing that really sparked this post is the criticism internet dwellers (myself, bloggers, people with feelings all included) receive for their ‘online' presence. The use and abuse of social media if you will. I apologise if i’ve been abusing the unwritten rules of Instagram, Snapchat or whatever… But tell me, how could being your true self online and in real life ever be wrong? Okay, dialling back the diva, but the point stands. Why should people have to apologise for sharing their ‘embarrassing’ truth on any platform. I mean, that’s like Tobias apologising for being a never nude or Lucille apologising for not liking GOB. Oh damn it, i’m at it again… What i’m saying is, that’s just not your problem.
Personally, i’ve come to terms with the fact i’m a little dorky, a little stupid and a little bit of a mess. I guess if you’re not okay with that, that’s not my problem. If me dancing to the Bee Gee’s, quoting Ru Paul pretending i’m Kimmy Schmidt and being myself upsets you on Snapchat then you really wouldn’t like me in real life and that’s not my problem.
I’ve made plenty of mistakes which definitely are my problem and that I definitely need to sort out, online and otherwise, but trust me, being yourself is never something you should apologise for. If you don’t like the me I am in life and online unfollow.
A huge embarrassment. Over and out